Top 5 challenges for caregivers

“One must pick and choose one’s battles in life OR risk living in many emotional foxholes.” ~ Donald Neviaser

Caregiving is a difficult job on it’s own but when you add work, family and other obligations, it often becomes overwhelming. Caregivers are at an increased risk for depression and chronic illnesses.  When caregivers were asked about their anxiety and concerns, the following were in the top five:

Work and caregiving

Work in and of itself can be challenging. Imagine taking care of yourself, your children and your parent(s). Some days it will feel like you don’t know what to do first. Ask for help at work. Let your coworkers know about the basics of your situation. They may be more supportive of your needs when they understand why you get so many phone calls, are late or absent. Do not overburden them with your  problems or use them as a sounding board.

• Ask about the Employee Assistance Programs (EAP) at your place of employment.
• Check out the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) with your Human Resources office and see what options may be available to you.
• Ask for temporary adjustments to work schedules.
• Ask about telecommuting polices at your workplace.

Manage your stress

Take preventative steps to reduce and manage your stress. Stress can lead to a break down in the immune system and can even lead to elder abuse.

• Practice relaxation techniques
• Go on short get-aways every month if possible
• Hire a caregiver to come in part time and help out with daily needs

Finding resources

Finding resources can be like trying to find your way out of a maze. One of the easiest ways to go about it is to call 211 and ask for resources that will fit your needs.

The other great resources is The National Association of Area Agencies on Aging. ”Their primary mission is to build the capacity of its members to help older persons and persons with disabilities live with dignity and choices in their homes and communities for as long as possible.”

Finances

Traditional retirement plans did not take into consideration that people will live longer after they retire or consider the rise in inflation. Again, check with your local agency on aging to help you find resources that may be available to you and your family.

You can also call 211 or visit their website http://www.211.org.

Family dynamics

Caring for a family member can put a strain on the family. There will be differences of opinion or denial of the parent’s condition. Often one person will be overburdened and that others are not doing their fair share. Write down clear expectations on a calendar. Note what days the family can help out or be on call.

These tips will not solve all of your problems but it could help you to cope with the challenges of caring for a loved one.